Abusive Relationship, What Are The Signs?
Posted on October 15th, 2009 in Blog |
Whenever we see someone being abused, we often ask ourselves… how did that happen, especially to a person who’s strong and independently minded? Today, it’s really hard to spot the signs of abuse in a relationship. And we never know who are those people that have tendencies to be abusive. It’s also hard to tell if someone you know is being abused, unless you see the marks on her/his skin.
Maybe she (or he) will blame herself or tell herself that things are going to change. Maybe on some level she believed she doesn’t deserve any better. Nonetheless, as a friend you can help by spotting an abusive relationship before it is too late.
It varies with the victims’ age and the type of abuse… the signs of abusive relationship that is. And because children are not good at hiding things, child abuse is comparatively easy to spot.
When they are being abused, they usually want to tell you on some level. They will often have physical marks on their bodies with no good explanation of where they came from. Sometimes they’re quiet and withdrawn, or moody. Their parents may be overbearing or secretive, and keep them out of any extracurricular activities. These are just some of the most common about signs of childhood abuse.
It can be a bit harder to spot the signs of abuse whenever an adult is being physically abused. It’s because the victims would rather keep the situation to themselves rather than put themselves and their abuse, a partner or a parent, into shame.
When the victims jump to their abusers aid, they are not just trying to convince themselves that the situation is normal and their relationship is not abusive. Keep in mind, that victims, as much as they can, will give sorts of reasons why do they deserve to be hit and to claim that the it’s just an isolated case.
One of the biggest challenge in spotting emotional abuse is that there’s no good definition of where emotional abuse starts. This is why knowing the signs of emotional abuse is unclear and in general, it’s all subjective. If you feel berated and overly criticized, you must know that the relationship is starting to be abusive. Get out as soon as you can. Don’t tolerate violence in any of your relationship.
